Take time to date yourself. In today’s fast-paced world emphasizing constant interactions (think: onset of social media), it’s easy to lose yourself. Now more than ever, following trends and our friend’s activities is effortless. Even unintentionally, we constantly know what the people around us are doing.
But then ask… why do we fear being alone? And this is not to take away the genuine value relationships, both platonic and romantic, add to our lives. However, we can become so wrapped up in what our friends are doing, what other people want, that we lose sight of what we want. Over the past year, I’ve come to conclude it’s important to build strong bonds with others, but it’s equally important to know how to be self-reliant. I’m not saying you shouldn’t trust friends/a significant other/family. But when it comes down to it, at the end of the day, you are the one there for yourself in a way nobody else can be.
Take time in your 20’s, and throughout life, to date yourself. Life, whether at 20 or 80, is about learning. Form meaningful relationships, but learn to love and rely on yourself. Learn what you truly like/dislike. Take time and live many different lifestyles. Pursue a dream, even if it sounds meaningless or trivial to an outsider. Stand up and trust your gut instinct on things. Explore what you want without fear of judgement. Say “yes” to new things. Travel with an open heart and mind if you desire. Visit places, a museum, a bookstore, a coffeehouse, without anyone else. Be selfish with your time. Step outside your comfort zone to different places. Learn to be comfortable with your ever-evolving self and surroundings. And a personal reminder to myself to never forget these things.
This post is inspired by my favorite quote of the week:
“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”- Friedrich Nietzsche